The Desire for Connection
Two fundamental aspects of being part of BSLM are nurturing healthy relationships and maintaining mental well-being. I hadn’t previously considered the significance of quality relationships as a standalone pillar of wellness, but it’s clear that difficulties in our connections—whether at work, home, or within our communities—can significantly impact our mental health, sleep patterns, and even our eating habits.
I recently came across a TED talk that explored the distinction between fitting in and truly belonging. This concept resonated deeply with me, as I recognised that much of my distress stems from my efforts to fit in, rather than experiencing a genuine sense of belonging. I often find myself reflecting on my interactions and whether they stem from a desire to fit in or if they contribute to a feeling of belonging.
While fitting in can have its merits and may sometimes be necessary, it often depletes our emotional energy. In discussions about FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and JOMO (Joy of Missing Out), I’ve found that as I age, I gravitate more towards the comfort of belonging and align myself with JOMO.
I may not have a large circle of friends, but I cherish the ones I do have and find solace in my own company. The connections I’ve cultivated within my yoga community are equally vital to my sense of belonging and overall well-being.
Each of us possesses distinct preferences and requirements when it comes to social interactions and our feelings of belonging. Our tolerance for loneliness and comfort in our own company varies significantly. It’s crucial to practice self-compassion and understand these traits within ourselves, while also appreciating the complexity of others’ experiences.
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Love you: Health and Well-being with Lorraine 